Love Was Never Measured Because We Never Had the Tools To
By Momar Lissa Ndiaye ("MLN"), Founder & CEO, weyoga Inc.
There's a comforting idea that love is fundamentally unmeasurable — too vast, too subjective, too sacred for anything as crude as data. It's a flattering idea, and it's also mostly an excuse. What's actually true is narrower and less romantic: nobody has built the instrument. The absence of measurement gets mistaken for the impossibility of it.
Compare this to any other domain that once seemed too subtle to quantify. Pain was unmeasurable until pain scales existed. Sleep quality was a mystery until wearables tracked it. In every case, the resistance to measurement dissolved the moment someone built a good-enough proxy, not because the underlying phenomenon became simpler, but because someone finally pointed an instrument at it.
Relationship patterns are not actually more elusive than sleep architecture. The recurring behaviors, the timing of withdrawal and repair, the specific triggers and responses — these are observable, trackable events. What's missing is not the phenomenon's cooperation. It's the will to build the proxy and the discipline to track it consistently.
None of this reduces love to a spreadsheet. Measuring the pattern isn't measuring the feeling — it's measuring the mechanism the feeling operates inside of. The two were never the same thing, which is exactly why one can be instrumented without diminishing the other.
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Momar Lissa Ndiaye ("MLN") is the Founder & CEO of weyoga Inc., a Delaware company. — weyoga.ai · mln@weyoga.ai