I Spent Years Trying to Fix Myself Instead of Recognizing the Pattern
My approach to every recurring problem in my life, for a very long time, was the same: something is wrong with me, and I need to fix it. New book, new habit, new resolution, applied directly to whatever the current struggle was, as if the struggle itself was the whole problem rather than a symptom of something running underneath it. Why "Fix Myself" Felt Like the Obvious Response It felt proactive, responsible, like taking ownership instead of making excuses. Framing every struggle as a personal deficiency to be corrected felt like the mature thing to do, even as the same struggles kept showing up in new outfits year after year. What All That Fixing Never Actually Touched None of it ever asked what was actually producing the recurring struggles in the first place — it treated each new instance as a fresh problem requiring a fresh fix, rather than asking whether several supposedly separate problems were actually the same pattern showing up in different rooms of my life. Why the Fixing Never Reduced the Frequency If the actual issue was a pattern and not a series of unrelated deficiencies, then fixing each instance individually was never going to touch the mechanism producing new instances — which is exactly what happened, one determined self-improvement effort after another, for years. What Actually Changed Something Comparing several of my "separate" struggles side by side, instead of addressing each one in isolation, revealed a single underlying pattern connecting nearly all of them — something I'd never have found by trying to fix any one of them harder, because the fixing was never aimed at the actual target.
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Momar Lissa Ndiaye ("MLN") is the Founder & CEO of weyoga Inc., a Delaware company. — weyoga.ai · mln@weyoga.ai
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