His Need For Other People's Attention Was Never About You
He has a lot of female friends, and they all seem to flirt with him, and he clearly likes it. You've told yourself it's nothing. But you've also started wondering what you'd have to become to be enough that he stopped needing it.
That question is the trap. It assumes there's an amount of you that would fix a need that was never about you in the first place.
Why can't you just be enough?
Some people don't just enjoy being noticed — they run on it. Someone's attention makes them feel desirable for a while, the feeling fades, and they go looking again. If you're the partner, you can end up in a loop: you give more, he steadies, he drifts, you feel threatened, you give more. Everyone's exhausted and nothing's actually resolved.
You cannot love someone enough to permanently fill a need they haven't learned to meet inside themselves. That's not a flaw in your effort. It's a fact about how that particular need works.
You are not competing with everyone who makes him feel wanted. You're finding out whether he takes responsibility for needing that at all.
Ori looks at your past to see your pattern — not to hold it against you, but to reveal it to you. There are two kinds of patterns: a hidden pattern is the one you haven't spotted yet, still running quietly underneath your choices. A recognition pattern is the moment it becomes visible — when you finally see it clearly enough to do something different. Ori's job is helping you move from one to the other. People repeat themselves more than they think. Almost nothing happens only once.
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