Why You Keep Checking if Someone Likes You
You know when you say you don't care whether someone likes you, and then spend the next six hours checking whether they viewed your story? They respond quickly — you feel great. They take longer — suddenly you're analyzing the entire relationship. You tell yourself you're just curious. You're not.
If you already knew they liked you, would you still be checking?
Attention can become a little reassurance loop. You feel uncertain. You check. You get the signal you wanted. You feel better. Then the uncertainty comes back. So you check again.
Next time you catch yourself checking, ask: if I already knew they liked me, would I still be checking? If the answer is no, you're probably not looking for information. You're looking for reassurance.
And knowing the difference gives you a choice about what you do next.
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