Why You Keep Explaining Yourself
Have you ever explained yourself so many times that, halfway through, you're like — wait, why am I still explaining this? You already said what you meant. They heard you. They just didn't like the answer. And somehow you're still there, adding examples, giving context, providing supporting evidence. Basically preparing a closing argument.
Are you giving information, or trying to control their reaction?
Sometimes over-explaining isn't about communication. It's about trying to make the other person okay with your decision. Because if they understand, maybe they won't be disappointed. Maybe they won't be angry. Maybe you won't have to feel guilty. So you explain, and for a moment, you feel like you've regained control.
But here's the thing: you can explain something perfectly and someone can still disagree. So next time you catch yourself explaining for the third time, ask: am I giving useful information, or am I trying to control their reaction?
That distinction can tell you a lot about what's actually happening.
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