Why You Keep Getting Defensive
You know that thing where someone gives you feedback, and before they've even finished the sentence, you've already prepared your defense? They say one thing. You explain why. Then you explain the context. Then you remind them of something they did six months ago. And suddenly we're no longer discussing the original issue.
What part of what they're saying could be true, even if you don't like hearing it?
Defending yourself can give you immediate relief. You don't have to sit with the possibility that they're right. But that doesn't mean every criticism is true.
The useful question is: what part of what they're saying could be true, even if I don't like hearing it? You can reject the criticism. You can disagree. But if your first reaction is always to protect yourself, you may never get to the information inside it.
The goal isn't to never get defensive. It's to notice when you're doing it.
Ori looks at your past to see your pattern — not to hold it against you, but to reveal it to you. There are two kinds of patterns: a hidden pattern is the one you haven't spotted yet, still running quietly underneath your choices. A recognition pattern is the moment it becomes visible — when you finally see it clearly enough to do something different. Ori's job is helping you move from one to the other. People repeat themselves more than they think. Almost nothing happens only once.
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