Why You Keep Trying to Make People Understand You
Have you ever explained yourself so many times that you realize — they actually understand you. They just don't agree. So you explain it differently. Then more clearly. Then with an example. Then you send the paragraph. Then another paragraph because apparently we're writing a dissertation now.
If they completely understood you and still said no, what would you do?
Sometimes being understood is important. But sometimes we're trying to get understanding because we think it will change the other person's response. And if they finally understand, maybe they'll apologize. Maybe they'll choose differently. Maybe they'll give us what we want. But understanding doesn't guarantee any of those things.
So ask: if they completely understood me and still said no, what would I do? That question separates communication from control.
You can make yourself clear. You can't make someone respond the way you want.
Ori looks at your past to see your pattern — not to hold it against you, but to reveal it to you. There are two kinds of patterns: a hidden pattern is the one you haven't spotted yet, still running quietly underneath your choices. A recognition pattern is the moment it becomes visible — when you finally see it clearly enough to do something different. Ori's job is helping you move from one to the other. People repeat themselves more than they think. Almost nothing happens only once.
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