Why You Take Criticism So Personally
Someone gives you one piece of criticism, and suddenly you're questioning your entire personality. They say: "that could have been better." And your brain hears: "you are a disappointment and everyone secretly agrees."
What did they actually say, versus what did you make it mean about you?
The interesting part isn't only what they said. It's what you made it mean. There can be useful information inside criticism. But if feedback immediately becomes a verdict about who you are, you're no longer just listening to information — you're defending yourself from a threat to your identity.
So next time you get criticism, separate two things: what did they actually say? and: what did I make it mean about me?
You don't have to agree with the criticism. You just don't have to turn it into a judgment of your entire self.
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